The Laws of Detachment
As mentioned in a recently posted Posture Massage blog, the law of detachment can be a healthy way to determine if you are too attached to the lives of others versus your own. It can be a great reminder of holding space for yourself and your needs.
What are the Laws of Detachment?
The laws of detachment are basically reminders that help you to not attach to people, situations, ideas etc. which can get in the way of you living your best life on your mortal journey. Charlotte Dawson gives some great insights in her piece "The Law of Detachment: The Beginner's Guide to Emotional Freedom and Letting Go."
She states,
The Law of Detachment is something I wish I had learnt sooner.
As a very highly sensitive emotional person, learning how to detach from things when they aren't serving me, or just being able to have the detachment mindset would have saved me A LOT of heartaches.
It would have allowed me to better understand what is meant for me in this world, and how to trust in the universe to push me along the right path.
Learning to detach yourself from emotions and feelings can prove difficult, especially if you are someone who constantly thinks about the future and always wants something that may or may not be true.
By releasing attachments to the outcomes we wish for, we have a better chance of manifesting this to be true.
Not only that but by detaching we can also learn how to accept what happens, good or bad, for what it is. We can understand that maybe this thing hasn't worked out because it was not meant for us and was always supposed to come to an end.
If you're someone who meets someone and instantly plans your wedding after the third date, then you must learn to detach, because when you DON’T end up getting married, your emotions are hurt and you feel like sh**.
Now I'm not saying you can never dream or think like this. But RELEASING this desire into the universe gives you a better chance of both healing faster and accepting what comes, or actually manifesting it to be true.
EITHER WAY, the common ground here is that for whatever the outcome is, you will be okay.
You need to trust and release, rather than try to force and control. When you no longer obsess over the outcome, you allow yourself to be open to endless possibilities.
What are the laws?
How to put the Laws of Detachment into practice
- Start detaching yourself from everything, slowly.
Now don’t take that in a morbid ‘everything comes to an end’ mentality. Simply take it as releasing expectations from yourself and other people, because you truly do not know what's going to happen. By detaching you are open to endless possibilities and can prepare yourself to face whatever outcome comes your way.
- Release the need to control.
You cannot control what externally happens to you. You can only control how you act, feel, speak and so on… Stop trying to control the outcomes of situations that are not set in stone.
For example, you do know that if you're not drinking enough water you will become dehydrated. But you do not know the outcome of meeting this person for a date. So let go.
- Be open to different possibilities.
You truly have no idea what's going to happen a year from now. One day you could be sitting in your parent's house, the next getting a one-way ticket to live in another country.
You can't predict every single factor of your life, so let things happen how they should and enjoy the ride. You also need to learn that you can in fact learn something new, you can adapt and change accordingly depending on what happens, and you WILL be ok.
Your Brain Changes Daily
Your brain constantly rewires itself to suit the information that you feed into it. If you constantly complain, gossip, find excuses, etc., your brain will make it easier to find things to be upset about, regardless of what is happening around you. It is great at matching things.
Likewise, if you constantly search for opportunities, abundance, love, and things to be grateful for, your brain will make it much easier to find a reflection of those things around you.
It takes practice but over time is a very powerful way to reshape your reality.
Nothing belongs to me. It's all an experience!
Learn to observe things without having an opinion on them.
When we allow things to simply be, we tap into the flow of life.
The most insightful experiences we will have in our life will be those we have trouble explaining with reason.
It is so much simpler than we think, because it's not meant to be thought, it's meant to be felt.
Everything will be as you believe it to be.
