Watch Your Brain's Mouth!

Our inner negative talk can go from being blunt to downright mean. Our inner dialogue can affect us pretty drastically in negative ways if we let our thoughts go unchecked or if we have developed a habit of allowing and fostering negative dialogue with ourselves. Most of us are way more hard and negative on ourselves than we would ever consider being with those around us. Improving this aspect of our lives can pay off in dividends! Read More

Tips for People Pleasers

Do you find yourself giving way more of your time, energy, and resources to people than they give back in return? You are not alone! Many of the people I work with have tendencies to be people pleasers. They often have adopted people pleasing tendencies to make themselves feel more secure or worthy with those around them.  Read More

Why We Dissociate & What To Do About It

Unwinding trauma can be uncomfortable, but much like healing a physical wound, the discomfort can lead to healing and restoration. Have you found that you are dissociating in certain moments or situations? Read More

Deconstructing Your Beliefs: Evolve to fit the current version of you

Have your belief systems been unraveling and feel like they're being challenged? It can unravel from divorce, religion, death, or job loss. Is it time to reconsider what you believe and determine what is serving you and what is not? Read More

Negative Spirals Downward

We have all been there, we woke up grumpy or something small did not go our way and suddenly it seems like the Universe has conspired against us. We feel like we have suddenly become a negativity magnet. If anything could go wrong, it does! What started out as a neutral day has become a horrible, “can I please skip today” kind of day. This is a real phenomenon! I’m sure you are hoping that I will say, “Don’t worry it wasn’t your fault” but alas, worry! It was your fault! How is it your fault? Well, let’s dive in, not to wallow in self-pity or guilt, but in order to raise our self-awareness so that negative spirals happen less frequently.  Read More

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Not only do we tell stories to those around us and in our lives, we also tell stories to ourselves. Our self-talk and conversations within our own heads are often stories or pieces of stories. Our stream of consciousness is a story, not always coherent or flowing perfectly, but a story just the same. What happens when we are presented with situations or facts that don’t come with full explanations or have pieces missing? Our brains fill in the blanks. They turn whatever is happening into stories. The only problem is that our brains are filling in the blanks to create a story which may not be based on the truth or actual facts.  Read More

Find Your Tribe!

In today’s modern world where it is easy to isolate yourself and possibly harder to connect with like-minded people, it is more and more important to find your tribe, the people you can vibe with, those who inspire you, and those who you can lean on for support. Read More

Try A Complaining Fast!

Much like secondhand smoke, whining and complaining comes at a cost and can affect stress hormone levels, job performance, job satisfaction, and our interpersonal relationships. Stress hormones can harm neural networks involved in cognition and problem solving abilities. It has been found that the less a person complains the more likely they are to be happier, satisfied, and feel productive. Doing a complaining fast can be a very beneficial thing for all of us. Much like trying to break a swearing habit, it can be difficult to immediately change complaining behavior. We get used to our habits whether good or bad. However, like any habit, the more we increase our awareness of our habit, the easier it becomes to change that habit.  Read More

Accepting Compliments Graciously

For many, receiving a compliment makes us uncomfortable and we feel the need to downplay the compliment, dismiss, or otherwise neutralize it. Learning to accept compliments graciously can help enrich our lives and lead to happier, healthier relationships with others and ourselves.  Read More

Two Steps Backwards? Life Is About Non-linear Progress

Good, healthy progress in a person’s life is rarely linear.  There are ups and downs and spirals. There are moments of backward motion. The true measure of progress is what direction we are pointed in and how far we have come. Read More
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